All men have an issue - alcohol, drugs, pornography, wondering eyes, rubber necks, sloppiness, lack of table manners, foul language, egotistical attitude, workaholic, or just plain lazy - pick one. A perfect man doesn’t exist. Learning to love everything about my husband that irritates me is drawing me closer to the Lord. I know in order to love Kevin with the love of Jesus, I need to be completely consumed by the Holy Spirit - only Jesus knows real love. Letting go and letting God is real to me. Once I allowed Jesus to deal with Kevin’s issues, my job as his wife became easier. I was no longer the self-appointed judge pointing out his faults. The more Christ-like I am towards my husband, the more Christ reveals Himself in our marriage.
Most women want to marry a man who has it all together. Oftentimes, the Lord will use a woman to help these hidden diamonds through their rough stages. We are the buffer to help them shine. Just as Jesus accepted us as we were and gave us unconditional, long-suffering love, we must also learn to love our man. For the single women wondering if Mr. Right is out there, you may be the kiss of life a confused frog is waiting for. We are helpmates – help him!
Sunday morning my husband told me to rest and that he would cook breakfast for the family. I wondered if he was setting me up for something, yet I accepted the invitation with pleasure. Kevin has been more attentive to my needs lately and it’s because one factor has changed – me. The more I humble myself and put his needs first without having a ‘what about me’ attitude, the more considerate he is of my needs. I’m a witness; endurance pays off. I contemplated leaving my marriage many times…thank God for Jesus because I would have missed seeing my diamond shine. Watching the process is a blessing in itself! Keep praying for your husband and ask God to show you the changes needed in you first and watch what happens! God rewards faithfulness.
Galatians 6:9 (NKJV)
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
