The number of couples I know experiencing turbulence in
their marriage is astronomical. I know couples who have been together for more
than thirty years that are going through, but there is one couple I know who
has gone through more than their share of turbulent storms for many, many years
and have finally come out of it – together. Talk about keeping hope alive! I’m
taking a spiritual warfare class and the first thing I learned was… people are not my problem. Hmmm…so this
man I’m living with, seeing every day, sleeping with every night, and getting
on my nerves more than once a day is not my problem? WOW!
It doesn’t matter if
it’s marriage or not, it’s so easy to blame the person we see, but our problem
goes so much deeper than the surface of the flesh. We believe in God and
angels, but many Believers refuse to acknowledge there is another force out
there that is familiar with our buttons of weaknesses and pushes them to get ungodly
reactions from us – causing dilemmas and nuisances in our relationships…especially
marriages. These unseen forces are
our problem – not the people we see. Once we become aware our battle is spiritual
and not a battle of the flesh, we’ll fight with the right weapons instead of
sulking, judging, criticizing, or arguing. Some who have been walking with God longer,
won’t even notice the turbulence, but will be armed and ready for the storm
before it begins. People are not our
problem.
I’ve known for many years that I don’t wrestle against flesh and
blood, but hearing it this way really hit home…. people are not my problem.
Husbands, children, co-workers, neighbors, in-laws, church family, parents, etc…they
are not our problem. This blows my
mind each time I say it! As I walk through this day, surely someone will rub me
the wrong way, but I’ll be reminded…they are not my problem!
